Writing Your Own Vows - Do's & Don'ts
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Whether writing your own vows is something you had always envisioned, or a last-minute change of heart, we are going to give you some pointers to help make sure they are everything you hoped for and more! There is just something extra special hearing couples share personal stories, share raw emotion, and make a personalized promise for the future, that gives us all the warm and fuzzies inside!
What You Have to Remember
1. Chat with your Officiant - Depending on the location of your wedding, there may be restrictions in terms of what you can say, and if personalized vows are even allowed. This step is one that can be lost in the shuffle, until rehearsal day. Make sure you inquire if you are interested in doing your own vows - some Houses of Worship will allow you to so.
2. Figure out your Style & Do your Homework - Every couple is unique, and your vows should certainly reflect that. Decide if you want to include humour included, or if you would like for things to have a more serious tone. Also, researching your favourite quotes, famous poems, or sometimes even favourite movie quotes can be a nice addition to your vows.
3. Write Everything Done! & then Condense - Remember a funny moment you want to share? Write it down. Thinking back about the time you first kissed, and how magical it felt? Write it down. Start BIG - write everything done, and once you are happy, start to condense those ideas into the final product.
Things To Avoid
1. Don't Wait Until The Last Minute - Don't get us wrong, some people are AMAZING off the cuff, but if you're anything like us, having this planned in advance will make you feel way less stressed! Plus, this gives you a chance to write it all down, review and edit, until you are completely satisfied with the final result.
2. Don't Overcomplicate It - This one can be challenging for some. If you want to chat about your favourite memories, make sure the stories will make sense to the audience. Don't lead them down a rabbit hole, and then leave them hanging, if you know what we mean.
Speak from your heart, and remember that these words you choose, whatever they may be, will be forever etched in your hearts + the hearts of the guests in attendance.